Role playing with partners

What is role playing in a sex life?

Role playing is often heard in movies or in the media, often presented in a humorous tone. So what is role playing in a sex life and why can this practice be beneficial for sexual satisfaction?

In fact, a role play is basically playing an identity different from ours to enter an atmosphere that is detached from our usual reality. By being able to move away from our person, it can allow us to let go more easily and thus be able to free our minds to concentrate on our role. Keep in mind that the most sexual organ in our body remains the brain and that being able to concentrate on a role can allow us to be more open to erotic stimulation for some people.

Role-playing can take many forms depending on the interests and desires of the people involved. For example, role-playing can be used to live out a fantasy to create more elaborate scenarios with lingerie, erotic accessories, and even costumes at times. Some partners include role-playing in their sex life while others will discover this practice after a few years together to be able to further develop their connection together.

Examples of role-playing games without sexual practice

Note that sometimes roleplaying is not sexual for some people as well. For example, changing your personality to embody a role during a "date" to make a change or playing the role of an employee who comes to your partner's house to work by doing everything your person tells you to do. There can thus be at times a dynamic of domination and submission joining the principles of BDSM. Another example, could be using "sextos" to communicate with a partner playing a role and starting over with your first simulated exchanges to "get to know each other" in your new play identities.

Why role play between partners?

Sometimes, when we have a sexual routine, it can limit erotic fulfillment since we are less surprised by our partner's touches or approaches. Role playing can be an interesting way to explore our limits, bring novelty and get out of our comfort zone to seek more stimulation and erotic sensations.

For some people, role-playing can build self-confidence in their sexual life, allowing them to detach themselves from their usual fears or discomforts by playing an identity of their choice. It is as if through the game they could give themselves permission to try a practice or a desire that would usually be embarrassing or not assumed, for example. Many fantasies often remain in the imagination and mind of a person and therefore role-playing can improve communication between partners with the disclosure of these.

How to start role-playing games?

You can start with one or more discussions in a place and atmosphere comfortable for you to approach your desires and fantasies that you would like to explore together with role-playing games. A way to exchange on your perceptions, your fears, your desires, your expectations regarding this novelty that you wish to share.

Make sure to keep an open mind and welcome your partner into this moment of communication so that everyone feels comfortable agreeing on the direction you want to explore.

Once the discussion is established and you are satisfied with your agreement, you can start by establishing a routine or a scenario to start. You can choose your roles and organize a time to live your first role play according to your desires, whether it is simpler or a more elaborate scene!

Sources:

https://www.yourtango.com/201063629/improve-your-love-making-sexual-role-play

https://www.passeportsante.net/fr/psychologie/Fiche.aspx?doc=fantasmer-avoir-fantasmes