Hello, I have been seeing someone for several months, our relationship is not serious, just based on intimate relationships with a lot of affinities. The problem is that I find him a little too gentle in bed and I would like him to be more wild in taking me by the neck or even gestures to play with the pain (a little) like with objects (whips etc.) and put me against the bed or the wall (without blows or violence). I have already spoken to him about it and it is true that he has made some efforts and I have seen a small difference, but I would like more.
He already told me that he's interested too but that he doesn't know what to do and that I have to tell him what I like to do it to me but since he's the first person I want to do this with, I don't really know what to tell him I just know that I would like to be more dominated. Do you have any solutions or ideas to help us?
